Heat 1 teaspoon of coconut oil in a pan; add 3-4 red chilies, 1 tsp coriander seeds, ¼ th tsp turmeric & fry for 3 minutes on a very low flame. Don’t burn the spice. Keep this mixture aside.
Heat 2 tsp of coconut oil, add 1 tablespoon udad dal, fry for 2 minutes & add 1/8th tsp methi (fenugreek) seeds, hing & fry for 2-3 minutes on low flame. Keep this aside.
Soak 1 tsp rice in water for 10 minutes. Blend coconut gratings, the above 1st mixture & 1/2 tsp of tamarind paste, grind coarsely. Then add the 2nd mixture & blend it for few seconds.
Heat 1/2 tsp of coconut oil & add mustard seeds. When it starts popping add curry leaves & hing.
Add okra to it & stir fry for less than a minute.
Add the blended mixture to this. Add salt & jaggery for taste, boil it & turn off the flame.